Fandango’s Provocative Question #203

Fandango has provided an interesting question this week and I am looking forward to reading the answers of my fellow bloggers.

To what degree have you been able to control the course that your life has taken?

Probably the most life changing event of my life was when we emigrated to Australia from England. I was eight years old and naturally I had no control over that situation. Well, maybe if I had made it very clear that I didn’t want to go mum would have thought twice about it, but it never occurred to me. Mum had already done a good job of selling Australia to me long before we went.

Castel Felice

When you are a child there is not a lot you can do about the decisions adults make. I still think coming to Australia was a good thing for me. My whole life would have been different had we not come here. I sometimes wonder about it, where would I be now? But I have no regrets.

For the most part though I have made my own choices for good or bad. I chose what high school I would attend. I chose when I would leave school. I chose the man I wanted to marry. Together David and I chose where we would live, we always discussed major decisions, so I never felt that I had no control over my life.

Work is the other place where you cannot always control things. I loved working in the railways, until I didn’t. The government of the day started privatising and the workplace eventually became such a toxic place that I didn’t want to be there anymore. But I didn’t wait to be let go. I left of my own free will.

I have been fortunate that I have been able to, for the most part, make my own life choices. I won’t say that they have all been great. I might have been richer and better educated if I had made different decisions, but I don’t regret anything really.

Of course, it might be that I don’t have free will at all and we are all part of some great experiment, probably run by mice. Who’s to know?

Photo by Matthias Weinberger


I was born in England in 1957 and lived there until our family came to Australia in 1966. I grew up in Adelaide, South Australia, where I met and married my husband, David. We came together over a mutual love of trains. Both of us worked for the railways for many years, his job was with Australian National Railways, while I spent 12 years working for the STA, later TransAdelaide the Adelaide city transit system. After leaving that job I worked in hospitality until 2008. We moved to Tasmania in 2002 to live in the beautiful Huon Valley. In 2015 David became ill and passed away in October of that year. I currently co-write two blogs on with my sister Naomi. Our doll blog "Dolls, Dolls, Dolls", and "Our Other Blog" which is about everything else but with a focus on photographs and places in Tasmania. In November 2019 I began a new life in the house that Naomi and I intend to make our retirement home at Sisters Beach in Tasmania's northwest. Currently we have five pets between us. Naomi's two dogs Toby and Teddy and cats, Tigerwoods and Panther and my cat Polly. My dog Cindy passed away aged 16 in April 2022.


  1. Sounds like, other than the decision your parents made to move to Australia, you have, for the most part, been calling the shots in your life. Thanks for joining in.

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  2. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I can relate to your story, as I too have experienced major life changes that were out of my control. However, like you, I believe that these changes ultimately led me to where I am today, and I have no regrets.
    It’s true that as children, we have little control over the decisions that adults make for us. It’s great that you have no regrets about coming to Australia and that you have been able to make your own choices for the most part. It’s inspiring that you didn’t wait to be let go and left of your own free will when the workplace became toxic. It takes a lot of courage to make such a decision.
    As for the idea that we might not have free will at all and are part of some great experiment, it’s an interesting thought, but I prefer to believe that we do have some control over our lives and our decisions. Regardless of whether it’s true or not, what’s important is that we live our lives with purpose and do our best to make the most of the time we have.
    While we may not have control over everything, it’s important to make the best of the choices that we do have. And who knows, maybe we are all part of some grand experiment, but for now, I choose to focus on what I can control and make the most of my life.

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    • Thanks for your great comment. I like to think that I have free will and I am luckier than many people but as you say, even if you don’t have control over some circumstances you can still try to live the best life you can.


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