RDP: Lonely


Alone but not lonely

In a way my life since moving to Sisters Beach has been a rehearsal for isolation. Living in a small community with only occasional trips to the nearest town has meant that I have spent a lot of time alone. I don’t really know anyone here yet so most of my conversations have been with the people who run the local shop or random people that I’d meet on walks. The tourists are all gone now, the ones that would stop me to ask if the road to the beach continued on to Stanley. (It doesn’t) When I’m out walking Cindy I see other people exercising or walking their dogs. We keep our distance, usually one of us will cross the street, but we wave and exchange a few words. The few motorists around wave too but then people in Sisters Beach always wave and say hello. It’s that sort of place.

Am I lonely? Not really to be honest. I’m enough of an introvert not to mind being on my own. Yes, I miss Naomi as she can’t visit at present but then her visits are often a month apart anyway due to her work committments. I miss getting together with my friends in the Huon Valley for lunch or coffee. I miss my friends from the Op Shop . I had a much more varied social life in Geeveston. However, even when I lived in Geeveston the days that I was not at the Op Shop I was on my own a lot and I was happy that way.

I am disappointed that I won’t be able to start my new volunteer job at the Wynyard Visitor Centre for the foreseeable future. I was looking forward to meeting lots of visitors and giving them information about the local area.

Of course Cindy is delighted that I am home all the time. She hates it when I go out and I often felt guilty when she’d cry when I left the house without her. You are never lonely when you have pets and Cindy and Polly are always around to keep me company.

I still feel connected to the people I know though. As it did during the bushfires social media is keeping people in touch with friends and family. I use instant messaging and email a lot and I keep up with what everyone is doing via Facebook. Fellow bloggers post about their thoughts and feelings and life in their part of the world. If I really want to talk to someone I can pick up the phone.

For me the present situation is more about loss of freedom than loneliness. I didn’t go out often but I looked forward to those trips to markets on weekends with Naomi. I liked catching the bus to Burnie to look at the shops or to wander around taking photos of interesting buildings. I don’t want to go out all the time but I miss knowing that I can if I want to.

Taswegian1957

I was born in England in 1957 and lived there until our family came to Australia in 1966. I grew up in Adelaide, South Australia, where I met and married my husband David. We came together over a mutual love of trains. Both of us worked for the railways for many years, his job was with Australian National Railways, while I spent 12 years working for the STA, later TransAdelaide the Adelaide city transit system. After leaving that job I worked in hospitality until 2008. We moved to Tasmania in 2002 to live in the beautiful Huon Valley. In 2015 David became ill and passed away in October of that year. I currently co-write two blogs on WordPress.com with my sister Naomi. Our doll blog "Dolls, Dolls, Dolls", and "Our Other Blog" which is about everything else but with a focus on photographs and places in Tasmania. In November 2019 I began a new life in the house that Naomi and I intend to make our retirement home at Sisters Beach in Tasmania's northwest. My current housemates are Cindy, my 14-year-old Staffy-Lab X dog and Polly the world's most unsociable cat who is seven.

7 comments

  1. We’re allowed to go outside but only with one additional person, which means, basically in groups of two. We have to maintain a 2-meter distance to whoever crosses our path and people follow this rule. Most shops do now have duct tape on the ground every two meters and signs that remind people about the rules. Most of the time I am at home because I and my friends just see it as “gaming time”, something we usually do in winter, but not very often or as excessive before spring.

    Apart from that, I walked a few days and I do my exercises at least one day per week to not lose condition. It might sound morbid if I say this, but in a way, the whole situation is also beautiful. Not the virus, but the result of it. It seems, while most people follow the rules, the majority of people do rather stay inside. This means, when you go outside, this world looks completely forlorn. There aren’t even many cars on the streets… no smell, no noise, no groups of people, no excessive commerce. Everything that, in my opinion, makes most of the city stress, just disappeared. Back then when I suffered from severe anxiety disease, I would have enjoyed it a lot. But even now, it’s somehow beautiful. It looks like I am not the “flock” type of person. Not that I like the disease, but I find the result of it enjoyable… basically, how life slowed down, how empty and quiet it is outside. It reminds me again why I liked Reinfeld so much.

    Anyway, I didn’t forget that this is a result of a pandemic. I hope that we manage to flatten the curve so that our health systems can cope with it. So that people with severe symptoms can get adequate treatment. I also feel with all those heroes in hospitals and so. It’s a surreal time.

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    • We have the same rules and by and large people are doing the right thing although there are always a few that think the rules don’t apply to them. I know what you mean about the beauty, we introverts enjoy the lack of noise, crowds and stress. If only it weren’t for this reason. It would be a wonderful thing if this pandemic could be treated as a pause where the earth gets a chance to rest and when it is over we look at better and fairer ways of doing things. It probably won’t happen but it would be nice.

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      • Same here. There seem to be some people who just don’t care but maybe they learn after the police gives them a huge fine. It can get expensive for them.

        Yes, sadly it’s because of a pandemic. But I hope too that we all learn something in this situation.

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